If you have been struggling even more than usual with productivity, energy and taking initiative to engage with the world at large, you are not alone. If you follow current events, don’t underestimate the toll it may be taking on you. It seems to be contributing to an existential sense that every day tasks and normal “work” doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things making it even harder than usual to get things done. It may be impacting your sleep, your mood, your frustration tolerance and your sense that how you see the world is actually how the world is. It is possible your ancestry may be affecting your general sense of safety even if that seems illogical. It is making a lot of people feel powerless. Never before, in my 28 years as a therapist/coach, has the news been had such an impact on people. I just want to give voice to the idea that it may be impacting you more than you are realizing and to remind you to have compassion for yourself-- because these are genuinely unusual times.
The info below is for a FREE live event that I genuinely think is going to be fantastic. It's aimed at women, but I'll bet 90% of the info will be good for everyone. I know most of the speakers (it's seriously an all-star lineup of experts (and me) and have heard what they have to say before.)
What do Dr. Russ Barkley, Dr. Ned Hallowell, Sari Solden, Dr. Tom Brown and Dr. Pat Quinn have in common? They and 25 other ADHD experts will be sharing their wisdom in the ADHD Women’s Palooza Jan. 11-16, 2016. Register now!
Women with ADHD! Historic online event happening Jan. 11-16, 2016. Watch, listen, participate in the first annual ADHD Women’s Palooza. Top experts share their info/tips. Register for FREE!
Women with ADHD! The secret is OUT. The first ever Women’s ADHD Palooza- an online conference only for women with ADHD, January 11-16, 2016. The Legends and Luminaries of the ADHD World gather for the first time in history to share their collective and individual wisdom: Sari Solden , Dr. Edward (Ned) Hallowell , Dr. Russell Barkley , Dr. Patricia Quinn , Dr. Thomas E. Brown , Dr. Ari Tuckman , Dr. Russell Ramsay …30 all together…all ONLINE….FREE to attend! Plus, connect with other women with ADHD who “get” it** Registration is now open- grab yourself a spot.
ADHD Women’s History in the making at the ADHD Women’s Palooza- January 11-16, 2016. Topics include: Organizing/Clutter Control, Hormones, Medications, Procrastination, Parenting, Gifted and ADHD, Social Skills, Money Issues, Relationships…and that’s just the top of the iceberg! Read more and register today: Register here
What’s an ADHD Women’s Palooza? It’s an historical event that happens January 11-16, 2016 online where 30 of THE top ADHD experts in the world converge to share their expertise with YOU. Don’t miss this! And guess what? It’s FREE. Seriously, register. You've got nothing to lose.
Women with ADHD! Would you like to learn the inside secrets from the top ADHD experts in the world on how to manage money, improve your social skills, manage clutter and procrastination, discover how to find the right career, get the latest on research, meds and treatment… to help you live a better, happier life? Reserve your FREE spot now for this incredible online event happening January 11-16: impressive speakers (and me) - register here
How? With their latest project, The ADHD Women’s Palooaza! Sound interesting? Let me tell you a bit more…
The Palooza is a ground breaking online event January 11-16, 2016 with the top ADHD experts in the world presenting on all kinds of topics that pertain to women with ADHD:
….and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
It will be an extraordinary week of insight and answers exclusively for women with ADHD presented by 30 ADHD Legends and Luminaries, including Dr. Russell Barkley, Sari Solden, Dr. Ned Hallowell, Dr. Patricia Quinn, Dr. Thomas E. Brown, and many more…
Would you like to be a part of this ADHD revolution? Would you like to find out how life can be better with ADHD? Would you like to rub elbows with some of the top ADHD experts in the world? Would you like to connect with other women, like you, who have struggled far too long and are ready to move forward with new information, resources and best of all…hope?
You can! Just register by clicking HERE Just register, already!.
Questions? Just reach out to Linda or Terry at firstname.lastname@example.org
The Art (and Science) of Making and Keeping New Year’s Resolutions
Ok, I know it’s sort of cool NOT to make any New Year’s Resolutions, but if you are uncool, like me, and are REALLY intending to do some things differently this year, here are a few tips.
1) The formula for success is Time + Effort (vs. Doing it Right).
2) It takes about 21 days to create a simple new habit.
3) The habit needs to be a concrete action i.e. to Lose Weight: Eat more vegetables. Exercise at least 30 minutes 3x/week. Keep a food diary. (That sort of thing.)
4) The action needs to have a home (just like our stuff). Where will it go in your day?
5) Don’t use the clock. Instead, use “it will go before _____ (something rewarding or relaxing) and after ________ (something you already do every day)
6) To create a new habit, you need to reward it every single time in the beginning (the first 21 days).
7) To maintain the habit, you need to reward it at random intervals (think gambling).
8) In the beginning the amount of time needs to be so small that it’s easier just to do it, than to talk yourself out of doing it.
9) The effort includes EVERYTHING connected to it – i.e. staring into space trying to decide where to start and trying to recover your on-line bank password.
10) Stop when you said you would stop. If you don’t trust yourself to stop, then tomorrow, you won’t trust yourself to do it for “just 5 minutes.” This helps rebuild personal integrity.
These are some of the principles used in the 28-day program inside my book – Starting Tomorrow: Get Stuff Done & Have More Fun! To learn more, click the link that says "book" and sign up for my email list to get Part One: She Blinded Me with Science: - for FREE!
If you are local (Southern California), please join me in Torrance, CA at the CHADD South Bay Chapter meeting. I will be presenting on my favorite topic: Procrastination!
Date: Thursday June 4, 2015
Providence Little Company of Mary Hospital
Del E. Webb Center for Health Education Building,
2nd Floor Conference Room
4101 Torrance Blvd
Torrance, CA 90505
Topic: Adult ADHD and Procrastination
Speaker: Kim Kensington, Psy.D.
The challenges of starting, continuing and finishing projects and tasks are magnified when you throw ADHD into the mix and therefore benefit from a different approach. With a light-hearted and informal style, Dr. Kensington will address how to identify what may be getting in your way, including executive function issues that may be masquerading as procrastination, and will offer ADHD-friendly strategies for navigating these obstacles so you can get more done in less time.
Here's what the Chapter announcement says:
"We all procrastinate. If we don't want to do something, many of us will simply put it off to do tomorrow or later, when we are feeling less stressed and less overwhelmed with other responsibilities. Or we might simply wait until we have more energy to tackle the task on a new day. Problems can begin to occur, however, if you find that you are putting off and avoiding tasks again and again and again. "Tomorrow" never comes. Many adults with ADHD struggle with "chronic" procrastination. Procrastination can cause problems at work when job responsibilities are not completed or are done at the last minute. Procrastination can cause problems in relationships. When you continue to procrastinate, your family and friends often feel that they are unimportant to you. Procrastination causes financial stress at home when bills are paid late.
For an adult with ADHD/ADD just getting started on a task can be difficult, particularly if the task is mundane or boring. If you are easily distracted by outside stimuli, as well as internal thoughts, it can be hard just to get started. Adults with ADHD often feel paralyzed and overwhelmed, have an impaired sense of time, have problems with organization, cannot sustain attention because their mind wanders, and are afraid to fail. Luckily, there are strategies that can help overcome chronic procrastination."
I hope to see you there!
Blog Post: Decisions, Decisions
Should I write this as a blog, or as a newsletter, or as part of a book, or maybe an ebook…? If I do it as a newsletter, should I move all my contacts from aweber to mailchimp or constant contact? If I’m going to do that, maybe I should wait? Should I write it in Word? If I do it in Pages, I would be able to write them also on my laptop, or on my phone… but I really don’t like writing on my phone… And if I use my iPad, I'd want the keyboard…
Around and around and around it goes. Decisions, decisions, decisions.
One challenge for adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder has to do with our ability to see lots of possibilities. And we ADDers tend to like possibilities! Sometimes this has benefits, but not always. A corresponding challenge has to do with our difficulty with linear thinking and organization – that means organization not just of stuff, but also of ideas (one of the big challenges with writing essays, and things like, say, blog posts).
With ADHD, we need to externalize our thoughts or it all just keeps swirling around in our heads. Here are two ways, but I’m sure you can find others!
1) Talk the decision out loud to someone who is a good listener and who won’t offer solutions or urge us to take action before we are ready -- we usually can figure it out for ourselves. Will the solutions be perfect? Almost never. But good enough. Good enough to take action and move our lives forward.
2) Write down your swirling thoughts. Journal, mind-map, free-associate, make a pros and cons sheet – doesn’t matter, really. Heck, you could probably paint the thoughts on a wall or do something musical (although my brain certainly can’t help you with that). How about using puppets--a sock on each hand debating the options? Oooh, I like this idea!
Is that too many choices? Do you now need to get out hand puppets to decide on a method for deciding? Okay, here you go. If in doubt, use a piece of paper – any piece of paper and a writing utensil – hmmm – should I recommend pen or pencil….